Everybody knows statistics. The major issue in statistics is that they don’t tell the story behind the question. Numbers can’t face the awful truth and the painful moment when a mother loses her unborn child.
In statistics, miscarriage occurs in 20 percent of cases. But, because many women don’t realize that they are pregnant and might miscarry without knowing, the actual number in statistics is much higher. In reality, the miscarriage rate may be closer to 40 or 50 percent.
In medical terms, miscarriage means: “Inadvertent loss of a pregnancy before the fetus is viable. A considerable proportion of pregnancies end in a miscarriage, also called ‘spontaneous abortion’.
However, miscarriage definition, as well as the statistics, mean more when a woman is being asked about it. Its symptoms are minimal, backache, cramping and blood loss.
Its effects are tragic for those women who felt pregnant with child. The psychology of a woman who just lost her chance of delivering a healthy and happy baby is very complicated.
For many of us, miscarriage brings a death of a child, so, when the miscarriage occurs, a woman loses not just a pregnancy, but a child and all her hopes regarding him. Because it’s a very private and uncomfortable subject, silence comes along when miscarrying. And this only means more pain for the ex-mother, as she can no longer express her grief, or to mourn properly.
Just remember how Charlotte from Sex and The City lost her baby. She spent days and days doing nothing, just starring at the TV.
It’s very important for women who miscarried to find something to hold on, like her friend, to talk openly about it and to relief her pain, crying over her loss.