
Struggling to think about questions to ask on the first date? Try some of these open ended questions to keep the conversation flowing.
Whether you're just starting to date or have a certain
experience in the area, whenever wanting to get to know someone new
the same dilemma arises "what good questions to ask on the first
date?". Common sense might dictate to leave out questions about
exes, highly intimate questions or very controversial topics like
politics, religion and so on, but ultimately the topic of first date questions still feels
quite fuzzy after eliminating these commonly avoided date
conversation killers. Try some of these open ended questions if you
want to make sure things go smoothly, in no particular order:
What kind of things make you laugh?
Humor is always a highly valued trait for interactions and possible
relationships, so learning about what your date thinks is funny can
be a great conversation facilitator since your date will most
likely come up with examples of circumstances that cheered him up
and invite you to do the same, making the conversation
light-hearted and relaxed.
What is your favorite way to spend a weekend?
This type of question not only reveals his/her hobbies without
forcing you to ask the cookie cutter question that feels so
overused, it can quickly reveal whether your date is an extrovert
or an introvert. Sure, it might seem a bit of a stretch, yet it can
be an important clue.
If you could travel the world, which are the five places you’d
never miss?
Another cliche when it comes to dating questions, this one can help
keep the conversation casual and interesting and can lead to bigger
topics like favorite vacations and such which can easily keep the
conversation flowing.
Who has been the biggest influence in your life?
It can be quite intimidating to ask about values as we don't often
analyze the things that are the most important to us. Yet thinking
about a mentor or someone who has changed our life can make us
realize what we value the most without even thinking about it.
What do you hate most about meeting someone on a first
date?
It might seem like a counter-intuitive question to ask since it can
stir the conversation in a negative direction, yet if things seem a
little tense, this type of question can help you emphatize better
and avoid some common pet peeves which can unintentionally ruin the
flow.
Though it is a great idea to have a few conversation topics in
mind, you shouldn't get caught up with wanting to optimize the date
and make everything perfect. A bit of spontaneity always makes
things more interesting and making sure you feel relaxed can
definitely go a long way in ensuring success.
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