Breaking up is hard on the ego no matter what but it is usually even more so for the person getting dumped. While there's no way to control the reaction of the person getting dumped, there are some things that can help make the process a little easier for both of you. Break up in a classy and efficient way with a few useful pointers.
Breakups are never easy and never
mutual, even though an agreement that the relationship must end
might eventually be accepted. Initializing the breakup can be
distressing for the person doing it, but can take an even bigger
toll on the dumped person's ego and personality. However, there are
ways of making the process a little easier for both of you and
facilitate the post breakup
recovery process. Here are a few effective suggestions:
State your feelings clearly
Making the other person understand that the decision is clear and
well thought out is essential in order to get adequate closure.
Respectfully explaining the reasons that made you decide that this
step is necessary, without pointing out your soon to be ex's flaws
to avoid creating a conflict that could escalate and make things
even more difficult. Don't turn to cliches, as you will only make
the situation worse.
Avoid giving false hope
There's no reason to be rude or excessively blunt, but you should
make sure that you don't give the other person reasons to hope that
you might change your mind one day if you are positive that this
will never happen. It might be cumbersome to do so when the hurt
feelings are especially evident. But doing so will help you avoid
future re-openings of the subject and help you both move on.
Make it fast
While it's absolutely necessary to address questions and objections
right on the spot to be able to make the situation easier to
accept, if you fall into over-explaining things, the situation will
only be worse. Avoid taking the discussion to public places and
choose his place over yours to be able to avoid sticking around
longer than necessary.
Give each other space
While emotional distance can obviously be enough to realize that
the relationship ended, spending time apart is essential to be able
to fully accept the new reality. Avoiding places where the two of
you would potentially meet, keeping distance from his friends and
avoiding communication via social networks at least for a while
will make things easier for both.
Don't bring up the friends issue now
If the relationship has come to an end for reasons that are not
necessarily due to bad actions/ intentions, a desire to remain
friends can be somewhat natural. However, as long as romantic
feelings are still present, the probability of this turning out
right slims to none. Waiting is the best policy in this case and
rushing things can be unfair for the other person.
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