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xhoneybeex asked:

22 Aug 2010

Worried about sex

I plan on being abstinant until I'm married and thats always been a feeling of mine. But theres those things like hand jobs, blow jobs, getting fingered or getting oral and I think that getting fingered would hurt like a bitch and the other things are like disgusting. I don't even plan on doing those things when I'm married! Is this weird of me? I don't really know what I'm asking i just kind of need some advice on my future sex life. Whats going on in my head right now??? serious answers please.



cutiegirl26 says:

Posted on 22 Aug 2010

It is definitely NOT wrong if u don't feel comfortable doing that sort of thing until you are married. Many women chose not to do that stuff and I personally think waiting until marriage is great. Its kind of like getting a purity ring. If the guy really loves you, then he won't push you into doing stuff you won't do. And, if someone tells you that it is weird you don't want to do stuff like that, then they are the weird one.


sena95 says:

Posted on 22 Aug 2010

It is normal for you to feel like that , but when you find your soul mate , he will make you feel comfortable , and then through the years you'd start to do those things in a way that you wont regret later , and if you still have those feelings after you get married , then its okay am sure your husband didnt marry you just becuz he wants dirty sex ..whatever okay , i hope this answer helps :)


sliq says:

Posted on 22 Aug 2010

just so oyu know getting fingered does not hurt like a bitch.. it may hurt a lil bit at first depending on how many fngers and stuff buuut truuust me it feels good u wont even worry about the minor pain ;) & i used to say the same thing as u that i would never give a blow job cus its just soooo nasty buut there was this one time when the guy was doing soo many uhmm enjoyable things to me but he wasnt getting nothing and i felt bad about it :P so i gave him a blowjob, and it is nasty once he starts pushing ur head down further its soo hard not to gag ! but definitely NASTY! & "sena95" is right it is completely normal :)


jwlover4ev says:

Posted on 22 Aug 2010

Yeah I feel the same way it is nasty. And the truth is all of things can be considered as actual sex. I also am choosing to keep my purity until I'm married and don't really plan on doing any of those things ever. It is just not right. God gave us feelings like that and we should not abuse them and by doing those thugs that is abusing them.


barbipixi says:

Posted on 22 Aug 2010

some people feel the same way. even some guys do.

but yea just like the girl below said if you find someone you 'love' then you want to make them happy as well and these things aren't so gross, it kinda turns into a need/urge because we are ment to have our other half to reproduce and that's how it works. you'll find someone you love and you want to have kids with and things will just click.

and not every person does oral or fingering


runningwithscissors says:

Posted on 23 Aug 2010

You'll grow out of those feelings, I promise. You probably won't feel that way once your older, because all that stuff is mostly a part of having sex.

And getting fingered doesn't hurt. As long as he's doing it right, you'll be fine.

But if you feel uncomfortable doing any of thoe things, then you shouldn't have to, and no guys should make you feel like you have to.


cheeryblozzum says:

Posted on 23 Aug 2010

everybody's their own person. and by the time you're in the right situation, your feelings might change. it's odd, eh? but if they don't, it's totally okay. no guy should ever make you do that. if you're uncomfortable with it, you don't have to.

and for the record, survey says fingering makes it easier and doesn't hurt. whether that's true or not, idk. I'm a virgin. (:


shinja says:

Posted on 23 Aug 2010

Just for the record I'm a virgin. Of course it isn't wrong, it abit old fasioned and some guys will probably have a problem with it, but many would probably be okay with it as well. My advice is to stick to your opinion, because there's always going to be a couple of guys that will try to get you to sleep with them. So unless you are completely sure you wanna sleep with the guy, don't. It is importen to respect your own feelings, because if you don't, you will become very sad.


lorii_grace says:

Posted on 26 Aug 2010

not at all.

way back thousands of years ago, sex was what made a marriage. you weren't married until you had sex. so basically ... we look at things very differently nowadays.

there's absolutely nothing wrong with how you think... the way the media portrays everyone thinking sex is amazing and alway sbeing sexually active is a very small part of society.. there are SOOO many other people out there who practice abstinence, such as myself.

in my opinion.. i dont see how handjobs or bjs or fingering is any different than actually having sex. its all about getting physical with people - you either do or you dont, and there's no gray area.


lorii_grace says:

Posted on 26 Aug 2010

Whewt (:

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