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stenmore asked:

16 Apr 2012

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me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 months. we both in our final year of highschool. we both love eachother very much, and are very happy together. we both plan our futures together, my boyfriend is determined to goto uni with me and such. he just wants us to be together. however, he hasnt really wanted sex lately. lastnight, he had a party, and we were getting intimate at the end of the night. we began to have sex, but he stopped halfway through. he said it was because he had smoked and drunk alot, but i dont know. he called me today and said we needed to talk. he told me that he doesnt know whats wrong, and that for some reason he just gets that way. he also told me that he is scared he might lose attraction to me. i asked him is he was interested in anyone else, or if he wasnt attracted to me anymore and he said its not me, that its that a small thing that will go away. but its only been 4 months. i love him so much and im terrified. what should i do? help please

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caslynn

caslynn says:

Posted on 16 Apr 2012

Wait it out and see. If he says it's a small thing that'll go away, trust him. He hasn't given you any reason not to. And if you freak out a lot and just worry and fret over it, you risk actually pushing him away. So chill out, love him as best you can, and let what happens happen.

dragana94

dragana94 says:

Posted on 16 Apr 2012

Just wait and see..But be careful,cuz they might be another girl yes he said there isn't but just be careful and see how it works out. :) Maybe he just have a problem on he's own.

inside_out

inside_out says:

Posted on 18 Apr 2012

I agree with Caslynn and dragana... one of the best things you can do is chill out and wait... but in the meantime you might want to do a relationship status check in your head: Where are you in your relationship now? What do you want to get out of your relationship?

Don't forget to set BOUNDARIES. It sounds silly, but it is important. It sounds to me like you almost crossed the line the other night... but you didn't. The way someone explained it to me once is you want to set up guardrails - on a road, they don't put they yellow line ON THE EDGE... its before the edge. So you might want to make those boundaries clear in your head and clear to your boyfriend - cuz you know, when you're in love, all logic flees.

Also REMEMBER... if he truly loves you, its not just because of who you are physically. YES, guys often tend to focus on the physical... they're made that way.. for that reason remember not to tempt him too far. And remember that just because you're not having sex doesn't mean he doesn't love you. The RIGHT guy for you will love you for more than your body. I take it as a good sign that he stopped "in the middle" - perhaps he isn't ready to cross that liine... WHICH IS GOOD - it means that he respects you and your purity.

That's the other thing - you don't want to sacrifice your purity for a guy. Purity is really important - you don't want to base your identity on a guy. You are YOU... God has a plan for YOUR future... so don't plan your WHOLE future around a guy. Focus on BEING YOURSELF as well...

Yes, dating is about finding a mate, but it's also about finding yourself.

God Bless :)

inside_out

inside_out says:

Posted on 18 Apr 2012

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dutchess

dutchess says:

Posted on 20 Apr 2012

If he's confused in your 4 months imagine what he will say if you keep dating after a while. Talk to him and tell him to tell you straight up what he wants.

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