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silence_ asked:

13 Jan 2012

"Who is Prettier?"

Is it just me or does anyone else not feel somewhat uncomfortable seeing the side panel where the polls are , with questions such as " Who is prettier?" , "Who do you feel looks prettiest?". This is just my thoughts, and i'd love to hear your thoughts, but I feel these polls and questions to be a breeding ground for insecurities. I'm not sure if people use their own pictures or pictures of others who they feel are prettier than themselves, but questions such as these are terrible , and I hope that people aren't partaking in them. For one, no one is prettier than anyone else. Every girl and guy has the capacity to be as gorgeous as they wish and dream to be, it only requires dedication and work. To choose one person over another in terms of physical looks, is shallow and in the end, you leave 2 other people, or one other person feeling both ugly (whatever that means) and insecure. It's best, I feel, votes in those polls. But, I'd love to hear your opinions on them.

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silence_

silence_ says:

Posted on 13 Jan 2012

Posted here on the main page on the basis that more people will see it. And with the hope that it won't be disregarded.

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kilawoods

kilawoods says:

Posted on 13 Jan 2012

I completely agree with you, however lol, I don't the person is shallow if they choose looks over looks. If anything, they just need ah little guidance. Some of the people, choosing looks over looks, might feel that that's the right route to go. Some of them know no better. We gotta remember, not everyone thinks the same and that one thing that might look and sound trivial to us, means a whole deal to them. Now, I'm guilty of sometimes choosin looks over charm, but it's natural. As for looks over looks, well...I'm guitly sometimes too. However, I completely agree that the polls could be putting some negative energy out there.

ninja_nikki

ninja_nikki says:

Posted on 13 Jan 2012

I also agree. I hate when girls compare themselves. Why can't we just all agree every girl is beautiful in their own way? How can we compare ourselves or ask who is "prettier" when we all have our own unique beauty? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; one person might find you extremley attractive, while another person may not. And plus, girls need to start realizing you can be considered the "most beautiful girl in the world" and have the most horrid attitude and people are going to think poorly of you and not be attracted to you one bit. Moral of the story ...if you want to have an "edge" over other girls it's all about confidence and a good personality. Looks wise we are unique, but we all have equal beauty. Photos of the girls I posted all have WAY different looks, but I consider them equally attractive.

renderella

renderella says:

Posted on 14 Jan 2012

Oh this is nothing compared to some of the people I have on fbook. I have about 5 people who do "who do you think would look better as his gfriend", "who is sexier", "who has the better smile", and "who dresses the best". I mean it is absolutely ridiculous that they actually post that, but it's even more ridiculous that people actually responded with their answers. I just don't understand why you would want to let everyone know how insecure you are. If your do that, it obviously shows that you want attention and that you want to be noticed by as many people as possible. A lot of the time I see pictures of girls in clothes i know their parents would most likely not let them wear when they take these pics. It's very frustrating and kind of sickening to see that.....some still believe in "if you got it flaunt it", but I think you should save it for a good man/woman lol

jackie_walsh

jackie_walsh says:

Posted on 14 Jan 2012

I couldn't agree more!!! It reduces something very complex to a simple comparison on a 10 point scale. Also, 'beauty' is a much more elusive concept any way. Some people who are physically beautiful may not really be "pretty." Moreover, beauty involves the whole person--inside and outside--not just the face. As you said, "Every girl and guy has the capacity to be as gorgeous as they wish and dream to be, it only requires dedication and work." As someone who needs to work at it more than most, I say "3 cheers for you!!!" for raining another controversial point!!!

jackie_walsh

jackie_walsh says:

Posted on 14 Jan 2012

oops, of course I meant "raising" not "raining." Sorry!

vampkisses

vampkisses says:

Posted on 15 Jan 2012

just before i got to this i was looking at the polls and thinking about how many there have been lately also. I do not answer those because in most of them i know they're comparing themselves to their friends which only makes themselves feel worse.. i gotta admit, im 15 and i have really low self esteem and it shows alot of the time, im pretty sure all teens go through this feeling and it sucks but i dont think that people will ever stop comparing themselves with others but i completely agree with you!

silence_

silence_ says:

Posted on 13 Jan 2012

I agree with you. Shallow was probably not the best word for what I was going for, but at the time I couldn't think of how else to describe judging a person based on skin deep characteristics or just their outward appearance. Superficial is another synonym. It's just upsetting, and these questions have been popping up on these polls increasingly more often at seems. I agree, as well, sometimes I find myself being a bit superficial, but I try to catch myself and not judge others based on such things. The polls probably won't stop, but I hope less people contribute to the voting of one person over another. Ah, I appreciate your response >.< ! xo

silence_

silence_ says:

Posted on 14 Jan 2012

I think regardless of where it is, it's still so, wrong you know? 1. It shows your insecurity if you're posting about yourself, and 2. if people actually respond and they either choose you as not being sexy or not being cuter, then that means, you're only going to get more insecure and feel ugly. Even if they do choose you , then what? You'll end up only feeling secure through other people's approval. It's sad, but even if it's nothing compared to this site, most of the girls who posts these questions on this site are a bit younger/in their teens , so, I feel like we definitely shouldn't make them feel anymore insecure and seeking for approval from other people than they should.

silence_

silence_ says:

Posted on 14 Jan 2012

Agree to the fullest with what you said Nikki. What bothers me the most, is when girls aim to 'look like' or 'be' someone else even . (Surfing through tumblr, I've seen others wish to be some tumblr famous girl, or even obsess to the point that they start copying everything about them ) . I think even though most the girls here, or anywhere, really just want to try things and find what's right for them, copying another person, or wishing to be someone other than who you are is not the way about it. Like you said , " Looks wise we are unique, but we all have equal beauty." I think you're spot-on with that and everything you said. : )

silence_

silence_ says:

Posted on 14 Jan 2012

Aye and likewise, everyone here is working towards a goal of becoming the best they can be both on the inside and out. I get tired of seeing and hearing people not feel beautiful enough, and so they feel like they need to plaster on makeup, or engage in really self-destructive behaviors such as anorexia and so on, in order to achieve "perfection" which doesn't exist. Even on the internet, it's good to be wary of what you see, because it's possibly been edited, or chosen out of countless other pictures. So to see others compare themselves to something that may not even be real or attainable, or compare themselves to their peers or think of themselves as not pretty enough, and then have people actually sit there and choose one person over another....it's sad that it's almost become a society that breeds insecurities.

jackie_walsh

jackie_walsh says:

Posted on 15 Jan 2012

Thanks. You're kind of amazing in that you obviously love fashion and beauty but understand how easy it is to fall into the trap of being totally superficial. Beauty is really more than "skin deep" and you definitely have it

silence_

silence_ says:

Posted on 15 Jan 2012

I don't think they will either, but as much as we affect ourselves, society affects us just as much. Like you, I don't participate in those surveys, I don't want to contribute to anyone feeling bad about themselves , especially when they shouldn't.

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