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ravenousgirl1 asked:

21 Jan 2012

I feel bad

So i have known this guy since last year and i started to really like him about two week ago, i found out he liked me too, he asked me out two days ago, and i said yes. Then when he started holding me i just got this feeling inside me that it wasn't right, i felt kinda icky too :/... So i broke up with him today. He was really sad. People got mad at me, telling me i should have dated him longer before breaking up with him... i don't like him anymore, i told them, 'would you rather me play him, and lie to him, at least i told the truth'. and yeaaaaa. So what do i say to him, what do i do, i feel really bad.

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dragana94

dragana94 says:

Posted on 21 Jan 2012

Well,it's always better to tell the truth,but isn't that a little soon?But if you are sure in your decision,then just tell him that there's nothing else beside friendship from your side,and that's it.I'm all for that "not play him,tell the truth even if it hurts",but are you really sure?

jackie_walsh

jackie_walsh says:

Posted on 21 Jan 2012

It's always best to be honest early on. The longer you live a lie, the harder it is to change things. So I think u did the right thing. But sometimes it's not "what" you do, but "how" you do it. Did you talk to him and explain that you think he's a nice guy and afriend, but just not a boyfriend. Maybe that'll make him feel better. As far as your friends go, they just have to accept your decision because that's what friends should do.

renderella

renderella says:

Posted on 21 Jan 2012

Okay dear, I understand that you felt icky while he was holding you and that youfelt it might not be right, but do you know why you felt that way. Did you give yourself time to re-evaluate the situation and maybe talk to some friends about it? It could have been that your body reacted to the hug in a sexual way and that didn't make you feel comfortable. But by you breaking up with him so fast it's going to make the guy believe that he did something wrong, wasn't attractive enough, or smelt bad. It really probably caused his self-esteem to drop a ton. You should speak with him and apologize if you haven't already. Just let him know that you are going through something and thought it would be best if you guys were just friends. Let him know that there was nothing wrong with him and that maybe once you figure things out you guys could try again if he wanted to. It's not a lie and it gives hope to him that he may have a chance in the future. Now if you end up wanting to date someone else and they feel the same, make sure you tell them to give you a couple of weeks. You don't want to seem like you broke up with that guy to go out with another. Even if you didn't do that some people will still say you did. Even if it were after months (I've had this happen to me).
Just be strong and if your so called friends can't understand that you felt uncomfortable then they don't need to be friends with you.

neonsrt

neonsrt says:

Posted on 22 Jan 2012

i had a situation similar to that,people dont understand the situation unless there in it ,im sure your motives were not to hurt him,and to stop the relationship before tthings got to far.im actually more proud you had the guts to do what most people wont and not sit there and lie , leading them on to believe you still like them.

ravenousgirl1

ravenousgirl1 says:

Posted on 22 Jan 2012

I broke up with him in a nice way, i soon as i told him, i tried to explain, but he didn't want to hear it.

ravenousgirl1

ravenousgirl1 says:

Posted on 22 Jan 2012

Tried to, he did not want to hear it.

ravenousgirl1

ravenousgirl1 says:

Posted on 22 Jan 2012

I know it was really early, but i didn't want to live a lie, and he doesn't even know. I thought about it all night, i i know for sure i do not like him, i think he was too much of a good friend before. But yea i think i did the right thing, and not live a lie.

ravenousgirl1

ravenousgirl1 says:

Posted on 22 Jan 2012

Thanks for understanding. And it is true people don't know until they have been there. And my motives were defo not to hurt him, hes a sweet guy, i just feel so bad for not feeling the same way he does.

jackie_walsh

jackie_walsh says:

Posted on 22 Jan 2012

Well, just be true to yourself. It'll all work out!

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