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may_flower asked:

04 Sep 2011

I hate myself . . .

I HATE MYSELF! I'm smart, but I don't want to be! I watch the popular girls walk past me with boys swarming at them, no-one cares if they're not smart, they have it so easy! I started the year handing in every assignment and getting straight As, but now I just don't care! My mum get's really angry when she's my report with Cs marked late and comments like I just don't understand she's so smart and wad such a good student! She doesn't understand she thinks I'm being lazy and the reason I hate school is it's too easy.

I have a very good friend who moved to another school, she still is my best friend but I miss her and I think she's forgetting about, we still hangout but...

I used to be very jealous of her, because she was super popular and really pretty, but now I'm jealous of anyone who gets more of her attention than me!

All the boys at my school tell me I'm ugly but I went to camp and the boys there disagreed! No-one here likes me, they think I'm a fat loser!



8( I know the boys at my school are right and the boys at camp were meaningless losers with no idea about anything!

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silence_

silence_ says:

Posted on 04 Sep 2011

Relax girly. Stop hating on yourself, it's not going to help, it'll only make matters worse. Intelligence is one of the best things for a girl/female to have, many of my guy friends and boyfriends would agree. Don't wish yourself to be a dolt, it only means men could take advantageous of you more easily, and it's not necessarily a means to happiness.

So it's clear you don't like the way you physically look. Keep your physical self and mental self separate, these are all aspects that make you, who you are.. If you're unhappy with your physical appearance, nothing --absolutely nothing is keeping you from changing it and being happy with yourself other than yourself. You don't have to wear makeup, you don't even have to get a hair cut. You can start by becoming healthy, exercising, and then working on your style and everything. But if you're going to do these things, you have to stop worrying about other people and what they think of you, and start wanting to change for yourself, and into the person you want to be.

I think the boys at the camp are actually the ones who are right. Don't call another person a meaningless loser, especially when they're not the ones who said "you're ugly " like the guys at your school and brought your esteem so low that you hate yourself. Why would you prefer the guys that make you feel so bad about yourself ?

Are you trying to impress the guys at your school for their attention? It's already clear that they're shallow guys who prefer looks over intelligence. So I don't see what's attractive about them. Don't be as shallow as them, you deserve better.

Just continue to be smart, don't let your grades go down, because those people in your school probably won't be going to the same college you will be, and the men at college prefer brains xD. Also, most relationships in schools end anyway.

Use this time in high school to focus on yourself. Get a new haircut, or work on your style. Visit saunas, whatever to make you feel great about yourself. The popular girls may have it easy now, but once you're out of high school, they're probably going to have to get jobs, and the guys will either not be around or do other things . High school is their dominion, College will be yours.

siren4u

siren4u says:

Posted on 04 Sep 2011

first, take a deep breath and stop cluttering your mind with all this negative thinking!! i was just like you a few years ago and sometimes those feelings come back from time to time. i hated how at school no one cared to know me, the hott popular guys only cared about the popular girls. i figured thats how life was gonna be and id eventually end up a single cat lady. BUT I WAS ABLE TO TURN THAT ALL AROUND!! fist, start with your perception of your physicall atributes. if you really look at those popular girls, you will see that most of them arent pretty. its their confidence and loads of makeup that cover up who they are. Just make sure you are the prettiest you can be by keeping your hair clean, smelling nice and looking presentable. jeans that fit are crucial. and wearing stylish shoes!! little things like that are what make you look stunning rather than wrinkly and nerdy. now with your hair! idk what it looks like, but make sure its out of your face and has a cute styling job thats easy to manage. now for confidence!!! you MUST always carry yourself with a confident flow. if you are nervous and silent, people will tend to shy away from you because of the awkward vibes you give off. DO NOT STOP TRYING IN SCHOOL. all my guy friends tell me that there is nothing hotter than a smart girl! seriously!! now for the boys!! you can not keep thinking that the only guys that are hott and dateable are in school. once i got a job as a lifeguard, guys started talking to me and i was thrilled!! these guys liked me and wanted to know more about me! so try getting a job if you are old enough, or join some sort of social get together to meet people from other schools. this also gives you a chance to start fresh with your confidence!! when you walk in the room with the new people, they will see a gorgeous girl who is smart and CONFIDENT. rather than a shy girl who is uncomfortable in her own skin. you are GORGEOUS. so play the part!!! dont deny yourself of the social life you want to have all because you wish you were like those other girls! also, all my guy friends tell me how they arent that interested in the popular girls because they are usually incredibly stupid, dumb and do drugs and drink. You seriously dont have to do any of that to make yourself noticeable and attractive! you reeeeeally need to stop with all the negative thnking. i just read the last part of your question that talked about how the guys at camp disagreed and said you were pretty! thats just what i was talking about!! the guys at school dont care about other girls. they all date the popular girls. end of story. but the guys at camp got to see who you truely are and liked you!!!! id love to talk to you more about this, dont hesitate to ask me more specific questions so we can get those stupid popular girls to be jelous of you!! i promise you, it can be done. i did it, and if i can, you soooo can too!

siren4u

siren4u says:

Posted on 05 Sep 2011

theres nothing wrong with cat ladies!!! i have six cats myself!:)

livelaughlove104

livelaughlove104 says:

Posted on 05 Sep 2011

I agree, first take a deep breath. Now clear your hewad, school is a jungle I 100% agree!
but i dont agree that your a fat loser, being smartier is better! trust me, you will get into a college and have a succesful life. Techinally, your better then those girls who get all the guys because you dont hvae to work your butt off as much as them to get o=good grades! They are secretly jealous of you ;) Now if you want to change your look, ask one of those popular girls who has a heart (if there is one) and say hye girl, ill hwlp you A a test, if you help me change. You can change for the better and still make your mom proud!
I hopee this helps(: Keep Your Head Up (:

silence_

silence_ says:

Posted on 05 Sep 2011

Being a single cat lady living in a cabin in Iceland or Sweden isolated is my dream. You say it like a bad thing >_> Cats are great and people are absurd. But then again , i'm an absurdist.

silence_

silence_ says:

Posted on 05 Sep 2011

but yeah I agree with this xD

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