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matson asked:

17 Sep 2009

i have a terrible reputation...

it s sooo hard to find a bf coz i ahve such a bad rep.. i had sex with my bf and when we brokeup i was known as the 'slut' and now no guys wana go out wif me coz my ex is saying that i will try to have sex with them!! i just want a new bf but its soooo hard! how do i get a better rep?

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bethanyjl

bethanyjl says:

Posted on 17 Sep 2009

Hmmm ummm why does you having sex make you the bad person and not the guy you had sex with bad too? man thats dam messed up!

hanlou

hanlou says:

Posted on 17 Sep 2009

This is so stupid everyone losses thier virginity arounf this age!!! How stupid of them to say this!!! Do you know of other people who have lost thier virginty before you .



I had the same problem I lost me viginity when i was 15 to a guy who was also 15 He told every1 i was easy and a slut even tho people in my year had sex with alot more people. So after everu1 was talking about me and stuff. So i told every1 he had a little ........ and no pubes after noone talked about me. Only him!!! And still now people laugh at him and girls dont want him because they think what i said was true lol.



Guys just like talking the piss out of people and girls go along will lads. Its more funny for them to take the piss out of other guys then girls.

auri

auri says:

Posted on 17 Sep 2009

First off, you and your ex bf's sexual activities shouldnt have left that room. If he had any repect for you at all he wouldnt do that to you...



and on the bright side, hun your not like sleeping around and getting preggo so whats the deal with everyone?



I would just say its none of their buisness, they werent there so they shouldnt believe everything he says. It really does help show you who your real friends are though, because if they were your friends or if you thought they were then they would take your side.



And yeah you will have bad rep. right now because ppl are feeding on his lies but theres gonna be a whole new convo. and gossip spreading and nobody will care. I just dont understand how just because you have sex with one person your automatically a slut. theyre so wrong.



Im sorry hun, i dont really know how to make them forget about it, but try being single...show them you dont need a man. Do what you've gotta do and talk to the people who do believe you and stand up for you and just forget about the rest.



Good Luck hun!

x

crazy_izzi

crazy_izzi says:

Posted on 17 Sep 2009

first what kind of ex bf is this telling sexual buissness in the school urghh

well, tell him he should stopp that kind of stuff

dont date in a while just hang out with ur GIRLFRIENDS so the slut image is like gone be nice to EVERYONE i know it is hard but it is worth the trouble

make shure that those people who sai u are a slut that u talk to them face to face

and wow 15 and having sex ok

it is ur live

but u got to make shure that it is SAVE u dont want a baby with 15

i hope u will get a better reputation

oxoxoxo

hope u get that boy 2

oxoxoxox

izzi

ctl888

ctl888 says:

Posted on 17 Sep 2009

Just brush it off. he is so immature to be talking all that smack about you. You must have really hurt him ... that is why he is talking sh*t about you. trying to make you sound bad so no other guys will go after you. he is doing it on purpose....very immature. Just go about your business, when ever you hear anything else people say just brush it off like it does not bother you...," Like whatever.. let him say whatever he wants to make him feel better about himself.."

midsummer_dreams

midsummer_dreams says:

Posted on 17 Sep 2009

i think its because ur obsessing over getting a boyfriend. people will think : "her bf is spreading shit about her and shes just broke up wid a guy she had sex with and is oreddi lookin fr a new man!" thats how people think. so i'd say, make everyone see your not INTERESTED in men. leave boys for a while, for like a few months. and like Hanlou said, spread something bout him to. Just show everyone you dont care. My mate lost his virginity at TWELVE (thats like one year older than ME, and iv never even had a bf.)

some people only want gossip, so give them it to shut em up. tell THEM lies about ur bf. but if you dont wanna droop down to his leven, then ignore them. Soon some new story will come and everyone will forget bout this, trust me. And just talk to boys and be friendly, but dont be too forward with them. If someone asks you out, and trys to touch you cos your 'easy', smack their hand away and tell them that you're no slut. (not saying touching someone on your frst date is slutty or anything, just that if he does it cos your 'easy').

I really hope it works out for you! For the time being, try hanging out with your girlfriends! (:

x

hanlou

hanlou says:

Posted on 17 Sep 2009

I just thought, how do they know its ture you had sex why dont you just say it didnt happen. I am asuming he dont have proof it happened so just lie and say how can i be a slut if i am a virgin. Act like well dumb lol.

simplistic_design

simplistic_design says:

Posted on 17 Sep 2009

Its always funny how the girl is the slut but the guy never is. Just tell them you like sex and they can deal with it cause he's one too. And name calling never got anyone laid.

simplistic_design

simplistic_design says:

Posted on 17 Sep 2009

Almost forgot. When you take insults and... well an insult.. You seem less. Next time they say slut kick back and smile because you get whatever you want. And you wanted it. You feel bad cause you let them. When your older you will realize it is your body and you can do what you want. We are all animals and were made to 'breed' anyhow. You just know what you want as a woman and take it. Try that approach.

barbipixi

barbipixi says:

Posted on 18 Sep 2009

sorry but did he want sex or did you



either way you're not a slut but you sure as hell are too damn young to be dealing with that.



i know it's nice to have a guy but you don't need one to be happy and you need to make sure you don't get one while they have that term on their minds. you may end up with one who expects that fromyou and that's not a great way to start any relationship



i would say please just relax and take a break from dating they can't keep calling you names if you don't have anything to back it up. and if they call you that well he is too : P

cookiemonstuh

cookiemonstuh says:

Posted on 20 Sep 2009

just chill out. people make sex seem glamorous and like its sooo great. it is a big thing, but you wont the only person apart of it. if they hae anything to say it takes a vagina and penis to have sex! where the hell's his blame? or just be like whatever your just mad you cant get any =P lol. and if you want a bf, thats what facebooks for! duh!! jk, but if these guys wanna bitch and moan abt your PAST relationship, then girl they are NOT worth your time. just chill. good luck(:

matson

matson says:

Posted on 17 Sep 2009

im only 15.. and for sum reason everyone thinks its rly big if u have sex.. but i loved him and we did it coz its normal but he has totally twisted the story to make me seem like all i want is sex

bethanyjl

bethanyjl says:

Posted on 17 Sep 2009

Im sorry girl. But i strongly suggest the you wait to have sex again. because ask yourself this are you ready to be a mom? only have sex if you are. because theres no guarantees when it comes to sex. its not all fun and games its serious stuff and not to be taken lightly.

bethanyjl

bethanyjl says:

Posted on 17 Sep 2009

That being said the best way to make ppl to stop talking is to ignore them and to not do 'it' again with any guy if you want a good rep again.

midsummer_dreams

midsummer_dreams says:

Posted on 17 Sep 2009

level*.

and btw, that mate of mine is 22 now. (hes actually my mates brother, but i talk to him often too.)

matson

matson says:

Posted on 20 Sep 2009

we were going out for ages, and then he asked and i didnt say straight away.. he reminded me a fair bit for a few weeks and then he said just once, i will stop if it hurts or u dont like it. and i said ok

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