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little_miss_sunshine asked:

03 Mar 2011

Is my friend self-harming?

My very normal friend has started to do more 'grown up' things like smoking recently which is quite surprising. Also a week ago she had scratches on her hand and she said they hurt, i asked her how she did it and she said her and this girl were trying self harming. When I got all worried she reassured me that she was just curious...

A week later she has a deep scratch on her neck/chest and a few deep cuts on her wrist. She says her cat did them, but as a cat-owner I know that it is very unlikely that your cat will scratch you that deeply and so many times before you put them down.

I feel I should believe her but we aren't as close as we used to be and I have know idea whether she'd do that anymore. A month ago I'd have been like no she wouldn't but with all the smoking and drinking it wouldn't be surprising.

She's a very old family friend and even though we're not close as school anymore I still care if she's hurting herself...



So is she self-harming? If so then what should I do? Thankyou for your answers - but I'm not sure if its that bad yet, there hasen't been anymore cuts since then... also she's a really happy, quite popular, girl with a boyfriend and loads of friends... her and her parents get on well enough, so I don't really know if there would be a reason for her doing it... if you know what I mean...

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liannelovesmakeup

liannelovesmakeup says:

Posted on 06 Mar 2011

It sounds to me like she has at least tried self-harming. She might not be doing it right now, but she knows now that when she IS feeling depressed, or she's drunk, self-harming is always an option. It's something people do to feel better. Sounds weird, but it's more about the rush they get right after the harm than the actual hurting yourself part.
Hopefully, she found out that it doesn't do anything for her, so she won't turn to it next time she feels down.
The self-harm along with smoking and drinking is usually a sign of depression. Even if the person doesn't always feel sad, they still feel like nothing matters, and nobody cares about what they do.
I think she would just get angry and defensive if you talk to her about it directly. She will feel like you are judging her, and that's bad. I suggest looking up ways to help someone with depression, and yes, mention it to an adult you can trust, whether it's a parent, teacher, guidance counsellor, doctor, psychologist, etc.
They'll have some more advice about what you can do to help.
If you are close enough with her, that you could email her or send her some links, you could find some helpful info sites or self-help sites and just say something like "Hey, I found these and they are really good. Send them along to someone who might need them." Because it's not about her directly, she won't get defensive about it, AND, because she's "curious" about self-harm and rebellious behavior in general, she'll check them out herself. :P

mistress1209

mistress1209 says:

Posted on 04 Mar 2011

there's a good chance, alright. I would suggest telling her parents or maybe even your own about these observations. This is serious enough for them to know about. Talking to her would probably just make her feel indignant towards you, considering you guys aren't very close this time. Act on it as soon as you can before she goes out of control.

papops123

papops123 says:

Posted on 04 Mar 2011

i thinc she might b.. 1. u need to talc to her. if she does it its her way to probably get rid of her stress. its lic doing drugs and if she ceeps doing it she will get addicted (i do) so u need to get her to stop and if she doesnt u need to 2. get her help. she cold cut to deep and cill herself.. plz get her help.

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