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lily_billy asked:

29 Dec 2009

Boyfriend Problems..to upset to think!!

We been dating for four years now in March. we use to have a distance relationship i lived in California and he lived in Missouri but i moved to missouri and everything was fine so i had to give up my family my friends my dream of going to san fran for school to become a fashion designer



so heres the problem he wants to become a chef and leave me to go to new york and then Italy and when i ask him how about us or me this is what he says " well i dont know i would have to get a nother job to support us if you go so i dont know" thats bullcrap and i get mad when ever he tells me that so i told him if he does leave im going to leave him cuz i cant handle the long distance thing again cuz the longest i haven seen him was 8months and the shortest would have to be 3months

so it was crazy!

and he got mad at me and said he inst going and doesn't want to cook anymore



WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!?? i cry every time i think about this should i let him go?

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runningwithscissors

runningwithscissors says:

Posted on 29 Dec 2009

whatta jerk >:o

auri

auri says:

Posted on 29 Dec 2009

well when it comes down to it...he needs to think of whats more important to him...

let him know it REALLY bothers you...and if he chooses to travel then he obviously isnt worth crying over anymore.



wow 4 years is a long time girly, and it will be hard to get over if he does in fact leave...just let him know that if he leaves...you leave.



you shouldnt have to hold off on your dreams to let him do whatever...if you wanna be a fashion designer...go for it!

If he wants to leave you for that job, hes making a huge mistake..because when life gets rough, he will only have his job with him...wherever it takes him.



and why cant he get a job cooking in a good place where you live anyways...

He really needs to think about it and weigh out the possibilities of things before he goes and leaves you again...



Good Luck Hun,

xx

marlabell

marlabell says:

Posted on 29 Dec 2009

he is a *. no afence to u or any thing

barbipixi

barbipixi says:

Posted on 30 Dec 2009

i still don't understand y you couldn't go with him and work to support yourself?



but it really lets you know how important you are to him the fact that there are hundres of people out there that work 2 jobs and go to school to support themselves and he isn't willing to have 1 job while learning to help out. i totally think if he can support this adventiure by himself y wouldn't you be able to support your half?



sorry but i think you may love him more than he loves you and make sure you don't support him becomeing a chef and then he leaves you after all the hard stuff is done

barbipixi

barbipixi says:

Posted on 30 Dec 2009

another thought if he thinks he needs to do this could you both agree to go after a career?



you go try to be a fashion designer and him try to be a chef and see if life brings you back together? try to stay in touch but don't hold any promises?

ahroarah

ahroarah says:

Posted on 30 Dec 2009

if it is meant to be, it will be. do what you want to do, and let him do what he wants to do. if you make him choose between you or his obvious yearning to be a chef, he won't be as happy as he could be, because that will be missing. guys also move at a much slower pace than women do, most of the time. so give him time. just enjoy the time you have together now.

lily_billy

lily_billy says:

Posted on 29 Dec 2009

i know i love him and i dont want him to go but i dont want him to be sad and ruin this for him.

lily_billy

lily_billy says:

Posted on 30 Dec 2009

he says that the colleges here dont provide him with the classes he needs.. and i know this girl who wants to be a chef also and shes going to the college that his doesnt want to go and she told me that his a good college to get started his just picky.. i asked him whats more important me or going to italy for the college and he said me but his down now so i dont know if i just killed that side of him

lily_billy

lily_billy says:

Posted on 30 Dec 2009

none taken. =[

lily_billy

lily_billy says:

Posted on 30 Dec 2009

yeah i told him but he thinks i wouldnt make it, but the program in new york is that you have to finish the school in italy and it would be "hard to take me. i still support him him everything he does i just dont want to be the one who keeps on holding him back

lily_billy

lily_billy says:

Posted on 30 Dec 2009

i told him that, but he doesnt wanna do that.. plus it will be very hard for me seeing as i gave up on the fashion thing and i dont want to do anything else his kinda pushing me towards it

lily_billy

lily_billy says:

Posted on 30 Dec 2009

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