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jessd asked:

28 May 2010

How to help a friend in depression?

On tuesday my best friend told me that she wont be in school for the rest of the week and she wouldnt tell me why. So told i finally found out why. Shes been going to a group counselor for depression and cutting herself. I dont know how to help her and i really want to help her. In school shes more happy than me, so i dont understand. What can i do to help?

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rokkii

rokkii says:

Posted on 28 May 2010

Just talk to her about it. Ask her questions and do research on her condition. You can even offer to go to her group counseling with her, which would be a huge support. Ask her what you can do to help her. Offer to be there if she ever needs to call no matter what time. Its a serious mental condition, but having friends close has been proven to help cure it better than any drugs, so just let her know that you're there for her no matter what.

_riah_

_riah_ says:

Posted on 28 May 2010

Well some people who are depressed put on a hell of a good mask to hide it. They don't really want people to see that hurt.

Trust me, to be a good friend; just listen when she talks to you...get the point across that you are there for her no matter what and that you want nothing more than for her to get better.

I used to suffer from depression, it was one of the hardest things ever. Just be there and listen. Follow your instincts and just be a friend...this is a hard time for her, I'm sure you get that. It's good that she is getting help, though...but even through that, don't let her out of your thoughts. She needs you, dear.



Good luck, I'm praying for you and your friend.

bear14

bear14 says:

Posted on 28 May 2010

i can relate to her to some level of depression and cutting myself. i use to hide it well...i'd always be joking around and smiling but if you looked closely...you'd see the real truth; you could see that the smiles and jokes didn't meet my eyes. like rokkii said, offer to go to her group sessions...that's a great idea because it would show her that you really care and she would then have a real friend to talk to outside of counselling when she needs it. don't pry because she might shell up and stop talking.....if people asked me what was wrong, i'd say that nothing's wrong...if i wanted to talk, i would (i really only talked to my boyfriend)



hopefully your friend gets better

crazy_izzi

crazy_izzi says:

Posted on 28 May 2010

she is putting up an act.

see, i was in depression i was cutting and stuff and i hide it and pretty darn well if i may say so.

none noticed (exeopt the fact of me wearinbg lond sleeve all the time but i just said i was cold)

i lauged around but never found anything funny just really irritating.

talk to her. cutt8ing is mostly a scream for help!

i needed help but didnt get any tilll i saw a council

and when my best friend found out she helped me and now i am "ok".

getting cutting marks isnt good!

i alsways see the cut marks so i always get remeberd aber the bad times!

tell your friend to stop that!

tell her to meditate ( i do that now)

take self defence calsses ( karate, judo etc.)

she will train herself and she will let her frustation out on a ounching bad etc.

but NOT ON HERSELF!

just talk to her!

hope it works out!!!!

~izzi~

crazy_izzi

crazy_izzi says:

Posted on 28 May 2010

she is putting up an act.

see, i was in depression i was cutting and stuff and i hide it and pretty darn well if i may say so.

none noticed (exeopt the fact of me wearinbg lond sleeve all the time but i just said i was cold)

i lauged around but never found anything funny just really irritating.

talk to her. cutt8ing is mostly a scream for help!

i needed help but didnt get any tilll i saw a council

and when my best friend found out she helped me and now i am "ok".

getting cutting marks isnt good!

i alsways see the cut marks so i always get remeberd aber the bad times!

tell your friend to stop that!

tell her to meditate ( i do that now)

take self defence calsses ( karate, judo etc.)

she will train herself and she will let her frustation out on a ounching bad etc.

but NOT ON HERSELF!

just talk to her!

hope it works out!!!!

~izzi~

lorii_grace

lorii_grace says:

Posted on 28 May 2010

don't say you understand if you don't - it's okay if you don't, so don't feel the need to try and convince her you get it. it will backfire.

don't go all psycho-mushy on her - she's still a normal human being and even if she may require a little extra attention, it doesn't mean she wants people to gush all over her

be there to listen when she needs someone to talk to

don't push her, everyone heals at their own pace

and most importantly don't assume things, and be humble when listening to her, make sure she knows you care, and be sure that she knows you're in this with her, and you're not giving up on her (: sometimes that's just what a person needs to hear

*i'm not afraid of your pain*

lorii_grace

lorii_grace says:

Posted on 28 May 2010

in case i didnt say it before, DONT JUDGE

that's so incredibly important

hope things are going better for you two (:

lee__kyl000

lee__kyl000 says:

Posted on 25 May 2011

just tell her that she is the reason that your there for her and that she is your best friend basically what i mean is boost up her self-esteem then she can handle things more differently, hope this helps!(:

crazy_izzi

crazy_izzi says:

Posted on 28 May 2010

sorry for posting it on twice

i thought it would paost on so i clicked twice lol

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