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hero_ine asked:

09 Nov 2010

what kind of relationship is best??

which relationship is worth fighting for.... the one that has a spark since the beginning or the one that doesnt have that spark but you still like being with that person either way?????

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lorii_grace

lorii_grace says:

Posted on 09 Nov 2010

Second one sounds more like a great friendship.

But if there are too many negative points weighing on a relationship that has had a spark since the beginning, it may not necessarily be something worth fighting for... it may be something you just need to accept and let go.

Is it mutually beneficial? You will feel a "spark" with more than just one person throughout your life time.

mistress1209

mistress1209 says:

Posted on 09 Nov 2010

a relationship doesn't necessarily need the "spark" to be successful and make both parties happy. it will, at some point, be compromised or even fade away. personally, I value relationships that are built on honesty, respect and well, love. If that sounds like the one you're currently in I'd say keep it. Being attracted to someone else while having a great relationship going on happens a lot, trust me. It's probably too early to tell if this new guy's gonna be worth it. Though it won't hurt to have him around as a good friend. Things are likely to progress and that's when you'll have the discretion. Your instincts will eventually let you decide. Until then, hold on to what you got.

sena95

sena95 says:

Posted on 09 Nov 2010

The one you like being with is the relation ship which you should fight for , cause you can have that spark with a lot of guys ,

but not all guys have that thing that makes you want to be with them forever and if problems start to come you would fight to keep your love. and you would kill yourself if you couldnt be with them , and i just think that when you are truly in love with a person , it is not about the spark , it is about sharing , and about honesty and loyalty ...

firefox_12

firefox_12 says:

Posted on 09 Nov 2010

Both are great relationships to have, trust me.

If you went for the guy with the spark, then you would end up with nothing. You would let your current boyfriend go for this other guy, who, btw, is already claimed, and he would say no because he didn't want to hurt his girlfriend. That's how it goes every time and to put it bluntly, it sucks.

And then you would just end up hurting everyone else.

Which sucks.

Your current boyfriend might let go of you on his own.

Maybe.

But I would decide who you want more first, before you go and decide who you should date and what's morally right and wrong.

It's hard to decide who's needs are more important-yours or those you love.

Good luck with whatever happens, know that we are always here!

barbipixi

barbipixi says:

Posted on 10 Nov 2010

if you like being with a person then you should totally be friends



if you have a spark then it could be something more.

i dont have to fight to keep a good relationship i have a wonderful relationship and i have the spark and there is no 'working' for it



remember good relationships are a 2 way street you both need to put in effort but it shouldn't be too much work

beachriding

beachriding says:

Posted on 10 Nov 2010

You need spark. Ive turned down alot of guys never even bothered dating until I met the guy that had that spark between us. It was amazing, I knew he was the one right away. We got engaged in three months,we have a beautiful baby boy and we have been together 14 months. We just get along so well. DOnt settle, you need spark for the relationship to survive. we have had really hard days and really bad fights but its always been worth fighting for.

megatron

megatron says:

Posted on 28 Nov 2010

You need a spark. i mean, you don't have to have that same spark every single day together. You just need that chemistry and remember what made you two get together in the first place.
but if you like being with that person even if there isn't a spark then you need to just be friends, as long as that's possible.
but you should never have to fight for a relationship, it should always be kind of..kind of like a puzzle piece. Difficult to solve at times, but meant to be together in the end.
(:

rawr_its_jade

rawr_its_jade says:

Posted on 21 Dec 2010

any relationship/friendship that has a spark can basically ignite into the best relationship of all time. you need a spark to start the relationship. if the other one doesn't have a spark, then basically they are in the friend zone and there is nothing wrong with that. not everyone is going to fit well together.... be friends with the other person. if you do something/make a certain decision you may later regret it when the chance is gone.

snowdog101

snowdog101 says:

Posted on 03 Feb 2011

Every relationship is different, but if you don't feel a spark whats the point? Maybe being with the person without a spark is more friendly then anything. I say go for the person who you feel more for then the one you don't. Just try to keep the one without a spark as a friend and the other closer then friends, if ya catch my vibe ;) Good luck :)

hero_ine

hero_ine says:

Posted on 09 Nov 2010

hmmm well the thing is i like this guy.. i've liked him since about two/three years ago.. and it wont go away.... he has a girlfriend and i have a boyfriend i hadn't seen him for a long time until recently.. but its just like i remember it being, we still act like we did back then when we met, even though we both have other people.. idk.. i dont want to ruin what i have with my boyfriend but its really hard to ignore the fact that theres this chemistry and connection with this other guy :P

hero_ine

hero_ine says:

Posted on 09 Nov 2010

well i know for sure he feels the same way. . when we're in the same room its crazy. . idk how to explain it maybe you have experienced the same thing its something really obvious. people ask us if we're going out all the time.. but sadly we both have other people.. i think i may just stick to the guy im with right now though.. and thanks so much for your advice :)

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