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foreverunforgotten asked:

26 Jan 2011

There's so much drama. I don't know how to handle it. Or help my boyfriend at all..

So there's a lot of drama at school. & in order for you to help me, I'm going to have to fill you in. PLEASE take the time to read this, I'm so out of control and unsure.. I need help.



Okay, so my boyfriend, Ian has an ex-girlfriend named Amberly and she has been spreading a lot of rumors about him, what happened between him and her, and mine and his relationship. He hasn't really said what the rumors are exactly but I know theres a lot. I have Amberly's friends calling me names and throwing things at me. February 4th will be mine and Ian's one month. & the gossiping still hasn't stopped. We were talking last night and he was really upset. I'm not used to it.. he's usually so happy. These people are really hurting him. I tried to help him and cheer him up but I'm horrible at that sort of thing. WHAT CAN I SAY TO MAKE HIM FEEL BETTER? & WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE THE RUMORS QUIET DOWN IF THATS POSSIBLE? I just want him to be happy, thats all thats important to me. [ TO BE CONTINUED] Anyway, this talk is getting so overwhelming. I was in tears last night, I think it was mostly because of how sad he is. But I also need tips on HOW CAN I COPE? HOW CAN I CALM MYSELF DOWN? & REASSURE MYSELF IT WILL BE OKAY SO I CAN BE THERE FOR HIM? Tell me things to remember to keep myself from flipping a lid on people, saying the wrong thing, or ranting on facebook. PLEASE. If you need anymore information.. let me know. I need all the help I can get. This is getting out of control. I just want my love to be happy.

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luvme13524

luvme13524 says:

Posted on 26 Jan 2011

Ok. What you need to do is calm down. Have you tried directly talking to Amberly about all these rumors and how they're affecting you and Ian? Well if not then try that. It always helps. Also, just ignore it and you'll be fine. I feel so bad. Hope this helps!!!!

shygirlluvsblue

shygirlluvsblue says:

Posted on 26 Jan 2011

I think u should try to find out what exactly the rumors are...
hope it helps

stormsayshi

stormsayshi says:

Posted on 27 Jan 2011

what i do to deal with drama is... DON'T!!! Dont worry about what people say, just tell them to go SUCK IT! if u let them get to you, then theyre gonna keep annoying you. If someone asks about a rumor, tell the truth and do your best not to fight with those stupid girls (and quite possibly stupid guys).

tell this amberly girl to back off and find another man cuz the thing they had is over and its all about YOU and IAN

auri

auri says:

Posted on 08 Feb 2011

One thing I do about drama is I ignore it. Those people aren't worth your time at all especially if they're doing those harsh things to you and believing it. Kill her with kindness. My mum always told me to do that when people did the same to me. Just smile, be the bigger person and act like its not bothering you. If she saw that it was upsetting you, she'd know your weak point and keep at it. I know it does upset you, but think about it...she's most likely doing that because she still wants to be with him. Who's he with now? You. It's her loss no yours. Especially since shes doing that to you as well, it's her loss at making a good friend and possibly being friends with him too. When people throw stuff at you, act like it doesn't bother you and you don't care. If they see you don't even mind that they're being immature jerkoffs throwing things like 4 year olds, they'll stop. If the bullying gets worse and could harm you, do something and tell someone about it in between classes to put a stop to it. As for your boyfriend, be there for him. Do things that will make him smile. For example, when you see hes upset...you could kiss him on the cheek, hug him, or simply smile at him and assure him that everythings gonna be alright. You've done nothing wrong, and neither as he so why suffer through the abuse shes trying to put you both through? Both be happy together and don't listen to what anyone says. At the end of the day it comes down to how happy you two are together and that you guys are together. It's none of her business so don't even bother worrying about her. Keep your chin up and smile. You're in a wonderful relationship...just what every girl strives to be in. :)

lai_07

lai_07 says:

Posted on 28 Jan 2011

i think you should just always be there at your boyfriend's side without asking any questions that can add to his confusion at this time..atleast in this way even though he did not yet telling you the whole story you have some ideas on whats going on.. for now just show him that you will notleave whatever happens because im pretty sure that at the end of the day he will realize what matters now you two being together :))

lai_07

lai_07 says:

Posted on 28 Jan 2011

by the way not minding that issue can be the fastest way of killing it..

vampkisses

vampkisses says:

Posted on 30 Jan 2011

i know you said you dont wanna press or upset him but you can most likely help if you fing out the rumors. trust me. and just saty at his side no matter what... if you find something out talk about it with him cause even if it upsets him at the time it will be so much better if its out there in the open... hope i helped and i hope the terrible rumors stop!

foreverunforgotten

foreverunforgotten says:

Posted on 27 Jan 2011

I don't want to talk to Amberly because I'm pretty sure Ian would feel uncomfortable about it. & I might end up saying something I shouldn't. Plus she's so horrible I think telling her how it's affecting us would please her. /:

foreverunforgotten

foreverunforgotten says:

Posted on 27 Jan 2011

I've tried. But I don't want to press. /: It might anger him.. but I also wonder if he wants to tell me and just doesn't want to overwhelm me.. who knows?

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