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"There are those people that you just can't deal with. Then there are those people with qualities that might not be the greatest, but you love them anyways. Those ones we call friends."

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firefox_12 asked:

05 May 2012

Friends with benefits? Is this an unhealthy relationship(s)?

Matt's my best friend, i put all my confidence in him. We're both lonely, but not in love. We ended up kissing yesterday; not hardcore, but he really liked it and i'm just wondering if this is a bad thing before it has the chance to happen again. He likes my body. He's attracted to me, but it's miles from a meaninful relationship. Quite frankly, i don't share the same attraction for him.

It's not just me and matt. I have two long distance close friends, an ex that i'm still falling for, and a movie date with Josh for friday night. I keep thinking time is the answer, but clearly not.

How do i juggle these?

Is it healthy?

Can i do it without being called things such as slut, bitch, whore, etc? (it is important for me to retain dignity&class in a social standing)

Can i avoid hurting feelings/egos?

Where to turn?

Thanks.. Love yall:):)

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xxgeenalivelyxx

xxgeenalivelyxx says:

Posted on 05 May 2012

I think your best bet if the feelings for matt are not there then you have to put a stop to what he wants from you because you have too much on your shoulders with the others. You have to do what is best for you, XOXO

dragana94

dragana94 says:

Posted on 06 May 2012

First you need to talk with Matt,explain that you only have "friends feelings" and you don't want to lose him as a friend,I told my bff,this he accepted and now we're fine (this is us on profile picture :D) You shouldn't have even kiss him. Just think about this well :)

jackie_walsh

jackie_walsh says:

Posted on 07 May 2012

I think it's a little risky. He gets the benefits and you take the chances of getting pregnant and stuff. So I wouldn't do it. But friendships can sometimes develop into more (happened 2 me once) and maybe that'll work. But u don't want to lose a friend just for "benefits."

emmilymarie

emmilymarie says:

Posted on 08 May 2012

It is not a good idea if he is just your friend. I did that with my friend once, and now he calls me a whore and has his mother (really mature eh?) calling me one too. I didn't do it voluntarily, but it still ruined my life. If u like him, try for a relationship, but not just a friendship with benefits.

babygirl266

babygirl266 says:

Posted on 11 May 2012

i wouldnt do it you are going to end up getting hurt and feelng used. IT might be fun for the moment but in the long run its just going to hurt you. dont do it hun

mimi_anetionete

mimi_anetionete says:

Posted on 14 May 2012

Well.
You start by A) if you're going out on a date Friday night with this Josh guy, don't fool around with another guy, just because he wants too. That's tacky.
B) If you want to bang him, then do it, but don't hurt this other guy's feelings, or your exs, especially if you're still trying to communicate with him. That's selfish.
C) You WILL be called a slut/whore/skank. Not going to lie, I would call you one.
But you seem like a smart girl. Make the best decision.

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