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fashionterri

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 i am a boy...but i really wish i was a girl. i have always wanted to be a girl, but as i get older... the more and more i feel that way. i really can't like talk to my family about it cause they would definately be like not into it at all... so i am thinking that i will just sort of start be

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fashionterri asked:

09 Aug 2011

How can i be more girly?

Pleeze help....i need advice!! i am a boy...but i really wish i was a girl. i have always wanted to be a girl, but as i get older... the more and more i feel that way. i really can't like talk to my family about it cause they would definately be like not into it at all... so i am thinking that i will just sort of start becoming more and more girly like slowly.... just sort of easing my way along so that everyone won't be so shocked like....... so now i am just sort of looking for advice on how i might be able to do this...like what kinds of things can i do first..... i would really really appreciate any advice....

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pweddieprincess

pweddieprincess says:

Posted on 09 Aug 2011

well...i just hav 1 ting 2 say...be wht god made u, he made u guy 4 a reason....lorrd just be a guy...

silence_

silence_ says:

Posted on 09 Aug 2011

Tell your family and close friends first and foremost.
You already know that they will either react negatively or positively , subjectively .
So, you keep those who accept you for what you wish close, and don't let those who react negatively keep you from doing whatever makes you happy.
This is the hardest but most effective means of becoming girly because you won't be bothered by the "what-if he or she doesn't approve" and once you tell them, nothing you do will come as a surprise. You've told them the truth, they are your family and closest friends, if they love you truly, they will learn to accept you and your wishes. Acceptance time varies per individual.

bumble_bee_123

bumble_bee_123 says:

Posted on 09 Aug 2011

I agree with pweddieprincess your a guy for a reason ...... but you can always be a girly guy :) Start with the thing that makes you most girl... Are you into fashion? Make up? Other Guys? Lets just say your into fashion you could tell your parents that and maybe they wont be too impressed but they wont mind too much. Now that dosnt mean dressing in girl clothes and all maybe you could dress in guy clothes but be a bit on the more fashionable side (some guys are just so sloppy these days) They only thing is that if you start dressing all fashionable you probably will get teased/bullied but just ignore them if you do you cant help who you are. Also start doing some cool hairstyles like dont grow your hair long (it just looks sloppy) but maybe do a quiff in it or cheak out some cool girly yet for guys hairstyles :) Maybe then if you take things in small steps your family will realise how you feel without you having to tell them. If not they wont be so shocked when you tell them. Either way as you said your family will not be into it at all even if they realise it on there own but if you take things slowly they will eventually come around . You cant help who you are. But I wont advise becoming a girl Id just advise being a guy but a more "girly" guy :) Its your life and you have to choose but what ever path you take I hope youll be happy in the end..... Good luck in the future xxx

danielle02382

danielle02382 says:

Posted on 02 Apr 2012

Would you like some advise from some one who has been there and still strugels woth it every day. I'm 38 years old and have to deal with my internal strugal every day because of my family and the fact that I know they will not understand even though Im an adult married and have children and yes my wife and children know and accept it as part of who I am. Pweddieprinces if you have never had to deal with identity issues you deffenatly should not be giving any addvise. The best advise I can give you is to seek out a profesional therapist they will be able to help you through this far better than anyone eles ever could. and when you get into some good therapy you might find out that mentally you really are wired as a woman such as I did. But as I have said because of the family complications I have choosen to stay in a male body even though everything in side of me srceams to be feminen. To help with this I have taken to wearing sertain pieces of womans clothing insted of mens. I choose to go get waxed once a month along with manie peddies with my loving wife and daughters. So you see that it is possable to find a piece of middle ground even though some days I fight with my self over that little piece.

I hope this hepls. best wishes
Danielle.
P.s. just remember its not your fault that you where born this way. You must learn to love your self and be comfortable with who you are.

fashionterri

fashionterri says:

Posted on 09 Aug 2011

omg...that has gone through my head a lot.....and sometimes it makes me just feel like i am crazy. believe me i have really tried.......

fashionterri

fashionterri says:

Posted on 09 Aug 2011

thank you so much.....your answer really does make sense in so many ways... its just taking that first step that is so hard and scary......i am just trying to find ways to ease into it i guess...but maybe u are right....

fashionterri

fashionterri says:

Posted on 09 Aug 2011

thanks so much for your thoughtful answer....and maybe you are right...maybe i don't really need to be a girl...and maybe i dont really need to make that decision now either. i do like the idea of bieing a more girly guy so that can be my first step maybe and then i can go from there....idk... i really like your ideas about clothing and hairstyles and all.......

silence_

silence_ says:

Posted on 10 Aug 2011

Well i read your response to other people as well, there's no need to rush it , if you're unsure. Don't think you're the only who has ever wanted to be a girl, or the only guy like that. Don't think there aren't girls who try looking like guys either, just do whatever makes you happy, even if it's for a short amount of time.

Look at this person:
http://data.whicdn.com/images/12010302/Bou-ancafe-1715687-1120-775_large.jpg?1310741349
Bou is a male.
You could try to aim for androgyny where you display characteristics of both a male and female and there's ambiguity. He is a girly guy

Wearing makeup will also help you achieve the feel of a more girly guy
here is a secret from a livejournal i visit http://i52.tinypic.com/2nv8o0n.jpg , basically the picture is of a guy who was doing japanese "gyaru" makeup and he does it quite well, so well that he passes off as a girl.

Mind you, I look at a lot of fashions, there are brolitas (guys in lolita style), there's male gyaru and pretty much androgyny in visual kei all around. There's famous designers that play with gender lines John Galliano and there are models who play with gender lines. You can play with it without committing to either sides. Then again, in the end, it's your choice what you want to do, that's why all we can do here is help you without judging and putting our own opinions ahead of what you want. I hope your friends and family will do the same regardless of what you choose to do. :)

pweddieprincess

pweddieprincess says:

Posted on 12 Aug 2011

mabye my answer wasnt thtt clear..ok u say its hard...i sayy tht its not...u juss have 2 accept wht u are....y iz it tht u wanna b a grl?...do u luk like 1?...anywayz....guys are awesum.....(no childbirth) =P....but yehh i think u shud stick 2 being a guy

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