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ecstaticemm asked:

10 Apr 2011

so i like this guy, his sister is my bestfriend and says he likes me, but i think he is using me?

So, There is this boy who i really like. In fact, i've liked him now for about 7 months. During these seven months i was totally open about me liking him, and i think it has come around to bite me in the butt :/ We kinda sorta have this more than friends relationship going on, if you know what i mean, but he always ends up asking some other girl out after knowing her for a week. Now, his sister is my bestfriend and is always telling me about how he says "i would totally date Emily if she liked me" and swears he likes me. However, i've been really honest and think that he is only using me as kinda a "friend with benefits" sorta thing. He and his sister are really close and tell eachother everything, but personally i dont know who to believe, her... or my instincts? I really do like him alot and have no idea how to take the situation in.



I need some opinions, what do you think is going on?

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pweddieprincess

pweddieprincess says:

Posted on 10 Apr 2011

ok heres what..if you know that ur bf and u are open with eachother like my bf and me(we sucked tongue already) tht close and u kno she never told a lie go for the guy but if......otherwise play hard to get until u get lotta evidence and opinions cuz this sorta thing leads to heart break trust me

megatron

megatron says:

Posted on 10 Apr 2011

Hah. Being close doesn't conceive "sucking tongue" that could easily be all that that boy wants.
Closeness is deeper than just sexual desire or talking together, It's actual knowing what that other person wants and knowing their dreams, aspirations, and things that they're afraid of in depth. I'm not trying to bash pweddieprincess' opinion or "advice" whatsoever. But I'm afraid that she's never truly experienced heartbreak.
Now, I know this may be difficult, but whenever the boy's sister is your bestfriend you've got to take the upmost care in believing only certain things that she tells you. Sure, they may be close and tell each other everything but that doesn't mean that she won't put more icing on the cake.
i.e. saying, "oh yeah, he really wants to date you." or, "yeah, he definitely likes you."
Because, believe me, I've had that done to me plenty of times by a guy's sister when it turned out that she was adding on to what he had said.
It's kind of dangerous to show affection for someone outright when you begin to like them. Because then it just makes them think that you'll always be there for them to "fall back" on. It's like you're just an alternative and not a priority. So just be wary.
Just back off a little and don't talk to him as much. Of course you can say "hey", "what's up?", "how are you?" and other conversational phrases. But don't go out of your way to talk to him.
i.e. the telephone.
Another opinion, just follow your instincts. I cannot express how many times I've regretted depending on someone else to make a decision for me opposed to just trusting and following what I truly felt.
Just trust your instincts and don't get blinded by affection. (:

kenziejf13

kenziejf13 says:

Posted on 11 Apr 2011

in my opinion i think you should just talk to him and try figuring out what he wants you two to be, because if hes just going to keep "playing" u liike that, you know asking other girls out when u guys got a thing going on its just too confusing.. id ask him because then you get the direct answer and theres no confusion i guess. my friend actually went through the same thing about a month ago and he did the same stuff, but said he still liked her. what im trying to say is just talk to him alone, in person about it because then its unlikely he will lie to your face about what he wants to say:) goodluck

xkatzyxfairyxdollx

xkatzyxfairyxdollx says:

Posted on 11 Apr 2011

I had this litto problem with my ex (before we went out)... like he would flirt with me and then the next day have a gf!! But he claimed they all didn't matter to him- afterall he'd date them for like 2 days... but He said. and this is comming from a GUYS perspective so it might sound really stupid -___- well he said that -he DID like me, but he felt I didn't like him back so he'd feel lonely and want to have a gf... But I decided to jump at the chance before he kept playing me..so who knows? Maybe thats why he's doing it
you should go ahead and jump at the chance and go out with him if you really feel you want to.. just be careful and make sure that he doesn't see you as the same as those other girls...
You should try to just act a little more independent from him-to see if he's really putting the effort to chase you. My boy advice is type Sucky haha but I wish you the best xxx

ecstaticemm

ecstaticemm says:

Posted on 12 Apr 2011

thanks guys, i should've mentioned that i REALLY am playing hard to get here and he keeps coming back (as in i refuse to flirt alot, if i see him in the hallway its not all "OMG GOOGLEY EYES" but more of a hey whats up? when really, all i wanna do is give him a hug) , but at the same time, we have heart to hearts all the time (: like i know what he wants and stuff, and its the same thing i want. but i think maybe i'm playing alittle too hard to get... you know? :/ ah well (:

i loved all of your answers, Especially Megatron xD any more advice or ideas? Trust me i'm all ears (:
(to the point of looking like an elephant)

at_risk_csb

at_risk_csb says:

Posted on 13 Apr 2011

Omg! im in this situation too, idk what to do...im going krazy with it....but just follow ur instincts bc u might get hurt like i am... (:

saaanya

saaanya says:

Posted on 13 Apr 2011

i think you should jz hold on for a little while longer.. n let him make u believe that he actualy cares for you.. or cud use d most tried n tested way of making him feel jealous by gettin closer 2 sum odr guy..
good luck

megatron

megatron says:

Posted on 13 Apr 2011

Aha, you're great. :D
It's good that you've been playing hard to get. But, to thoroughly help you out, how has he been responding since you've started doing this?

ecstaticemm

ecstaticemm says:

Posted on 14 Apr 2011

mmm the hard to get thing? i dunno. it makes him want me like hell, i can tell that just by looking in his eyes. he cracks alot of jokes and tries to act like it doesn't bother him, but i dunno? its been going on like this for so long i'm just compleeetely lost :P
OH, but today he did the sweetest thing, (totally out of character for him atleast) he came up behind me and gave me this like bear hug thing, told me he loved me, and wouldn't let me go at all. which sounds alot lamer written out, but its the feeling you know? i just.... i dont know what to do! like we went out on a date this past weekend, and although nothing happened, we scheduled another.
maybe i'm just overthinking? x)

megatron

megatron says:

Posted on 16 Apr 2011

Nah, I think it;s going great. :D
Go on a few more dates maybe and see if he grows, you know, closer to you.
And then..tell him what you want out of your "relationship" and just ask him opinions. But make sure that both of you are entirely alone and don't get nervous like I always do. (:
I personally think it's going great.

ecstaticemm

ecstaticemm says:

Posted on 19 Apr 2011

ah well it is, because he is gonna ask me out later this weekkk!

shinja

shinja says:

Posted on 02 May 2011

Hmm.. Well, doesn't guys that are just trying to get in your pants give up if nothing happens after a while? I am really not sure, I don't date alot. Anyway, if that is true, you could go out with him, but take things slow, then he should give up if he didn't really like you.
I might be wrong, it's just a idea :)

rawrygawrgrrr

rawrygawrgrrr says:

Posted on 11 Apr 2011

i agree:)

megatron

megatron says:

Posted on 11 Apr 2011

I'm glad someone does. :3

at_risk_csb

at_risk_csb says:

Posted on 13 Apr 2011

i totally agree with yu!(:

ecstaticemm

ecstaticemm says:

Posted on 13 Apr 2011

awhhhh! well i hope the stupid boy comes to his senses! cause you dont deserve to be hurt (:

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