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bethanyjl asked:

30 Sep 2009

What do you think...

Do you consider being friends with benefits shallow or nah it fine as long as your not like sleeping with each other. I cant make up my doesn't seem right to have all the benefits with somebody but not date them ya know? Its just like kissing, cuddling and fondling kinda. cause any badder and i dont think id think its was right, but this has always stumped me.



auri says:

Posted on 30 Sep 2009

I asked my friend and he said it was fine, so i guess in a guy's perspective its okay.

To me, as long as its not a guy with a girlfriend and a player than i suppose its okay. Depends really on your age and what exactly it is that your doing =)


vnessa001 says:

Posted on 30 Sep 2009

um to me i dont know ither i would say its kinda wrong( my opinion ) i wouldnt wanna kiss and coddle* with someone im not dating lol


nana_0601 says:

Posted on 30 Sep 2009

no, it's either your my friend on a friend -basis or you're my boyfriend, what's the point of having a "friend with benefit" it's quite a ridiculous concept to me. Why would I kiss or cuddle or anything with anyone i don't like ? or if i do, why not take it to the next level =S just my two -cents on that =) glad i didnt have one of those ever tho' lol


barbipixi says:

Posted on 30 Sep 2009

what you have to wonder is if youre wanting to feel loved so badly that you want afection from someone so bad that you'll take it w/o the commitment of feelings and love

it does have to do with how deep your need for that attention/affection/attachment is. and it can also do with self esteem. if you can tell the difference between taking what you want as a fulfilled woman or giving because you feel lacking in some way or missing something. you don't want to use it to fill a void because your mind may not be in the correct state to still be open to finding the guy that is really right for you.

and you also have to know if you do start dating someone and they find out what will they think. are you prepared to end your friendship with the benifit guy?


fulltimepinklady says:

Posted on 30 Sep 2009

be careful about toying with your emotions and his, although yours are much more important. if both of yall are ok with it and the expectations are understood up front by both of yall then its not bad, sleeping around probably isnt the wisest thing to do and having benefits of any kind with a guy can hurt your reputation if it gets around and guys start to think they dont have to date you to get some. but I have done it before and its never been a big deal but i never slept with anyone. I always had to remember that the guy would never like me as more than an object, and would never see me as a girlfriend. But then If i didnt care about him like that either and never would and didnt care what he thought of me and it was just for fun then yeah, I would do it so do what you want-but not because the guy wants to.


hanlou says:

Posted on 30 Sep 2009

I had this exact problem with my best friend. I love him so much but as a friend only. He is hot tho. And i did sorta like him.

Basically one night we slept in the same bed and we sorta did things but by accident lol. It was really wrong but we didnt stop it carried on for two years. Even the night before i came here we where still together. We used to go out at night flirt wit other peole then go home together lol. It was like we where together at our houses but as soon as we left we where not. But we where together outside as best mates we went everywhere together it was so wiered. Now nothing happens we both live in greece but he lives in a different part he even came to visit me and slept at my hous ebut nothing happens now. It was like a really wiered understanding.


mikiya04 says:

Posted on 30 Sep 2009

i think it's all in the title you allowed to be given. if you both exclusively are hanging out with each other and no one else, you are together. it's just a matter of what you are comfortable with admitting. if you are both seeing other ppl, but you are always know that's your go-to person, you are just avoiding your real feelings. you don't have to jump into it because it's not shallow, but really think about your feelings. that's how me and my boo started. we hung out and were exclusive for about 5 months before anything was official.


blondie_91 says:

Posted on 01 Oct 2009

this is should have friends with benefits why miss out on kissing and s**t if your single? why not have a friend that you can do whatever with and have no goddamn strings attached??!!! i must be a slut then huh


midsummer_dreams says:

Posted on 01 Oct 2009

Well.. I don't find anything wrong with it. I think, if you only want a bf/gf for kissing and stuff then it's better to have a friends with benefits. Cos if you got out with a girlboy just for his/her body or what you want of them, then they're gonna be mad at you, wont they? It's better to have a FWB, cos they undersatdn what you want without having any strings attacthed.


sarah_mist says:

Posted on 03 Oct 2009

I think it's fine cuz one of my friends(8th grader) is in the high school marching band and there is this sophmore boy that is like the player type and I've heard that he has got many of girls pregnant and my friend is always txting him during school and he's always like well,I won't get u pregnant and all,and she has taken many of Facebook tests saying she'll be pegnant at 14(right now she's 13) and I'm really worried about her!!!! I told her that they can be friends with benefits!!!!! Soooo I think it is fine!!!! :D

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