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alwaysandforever asked:

18 Oct 2010

My boyfriend wants to have a baby with me.

I am 15 and 15 year old my boyfriend want to have a baby with me. I want to have a baby but I dont know if now is the right time but I also dont want him to break up with me.yea he loves me and always says he does and he says if we had a baby he would take good care or the baby and we would be together tell forever. But I am so scaed that he will leave me when the baby is born but I am not sure if now is the right time but i really need some answer if i should or if I shouldnt?

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mistress1209

mistress1209 says:

Posted on 18 Oct 2010

at 15 it's just not the right time for both of you! Having a baby is a huge, huge responsibility and surely you guys are not ready for this. I can't even begin at how one should be prepared to become parent. besides, don't you have school to worry about? Your bf is just way over his head with this. He could be seriously wanting a baby alright, but you can't use that to secure a relationship. A lot of other things can happen too--with or without a baby. Plus, you'll miss out on your teenage and most of your young adult life. Trust me, you will want to go to more parties, hang-outs and do other teen stuff. And that's pretty unlikely if you have a baby to take care of. You guys have to realize this isn't the best decision for you.

jod_mets

jod_mets says:

Posted on 19 Oct 2010

I don't think its the right time for either of you, you guys need to focus on getting a bright career for yourselves. THEN maybe think about having children. Education should come first girly. If you're asking this question and assuming that he might leave you when the kids born, then obviously he's not the right guy to be having kids with. Enjoy your life, you shouldn't have to take on that responsibility, you're 15!

sena95

sena95 says:

Posted on 19 Oct 2010

OMG .. no thats not the right time at all , and if he truly loves you , he wont pressure you ! you cant have a baby now becuz you need to take of yourself , you dont have a job , you have skool , you have a lot of things to worry about , and the baby comes afterr marriage ! now if he leaves you it would be his loss but dont ever let him get you to do something like that :\

cute_wonderful_blondie

cute_wonderful_blondie says:

Posted on 19 Oct 2010

yeah honey enjoy life you'll regret it afterwards if you have a baby now.. As harsh and rude as it from everyone to say I think we all need to kinda bring you down to earth because it's not really NORMAL to have a baby THIS YOUNG!! here are a few good reasons:

1. Your boyfriend and you might not love each other the whole life and at 15 you're even too young for a real serious relationship..

2. You WILL regret all of the teenage fun and miss some other relationships that can offer you a lot of new things about life and some life lessons in general...

3. You and your boyfriend are 100000% not ready for a biiiig obligation like that.. First off I don't think you're even serious about it yourself.. You seem like you don't really know ANYTHING about being a parent or anything that pregnancy and parenting bring.. Especially your boyfriend..He might change his mind right tomorrow and then what??

I am just really happy you even asked us all this because we can give you honest advices and help you to do the right thing..

I think you'll make the right choice which is NO!

sorry for being harsh but this deserves it!

conner

conner says:

Posted on 19 Oct 2010

at 15 you may think your ready but your not...how will you afford it I had my sisters firned get kicked out cause she got pregnant...what happens if you break up? watch the tyra show,I learn everything from there ..haahha (: good luck

barbipixi

barbipixi says:

Posted on 19 Oct 2010

i will say i've loved every boyfriend i've ever had WHILE I WAS WITH THEM



but as i grew older i wasn't in as deep of love because you change as you grow up. at 15 you can't do anything barely for yourself. you can't drive, you can't pay bills, you can't have a car, your body is just starting to mature.



there is a time and place to choose to bring a baby into this world and that's when you and a stable partner are grown, you have the income to support YOURSELVES and a child.



it's so important to be able to take care of yourself before you can even think about taking care of a significant other than a baby.



what happens when you have a baby and both of you are still in school? does he quit and try to get a job? do you quit and try to raise the baby? do you get a job and try to raise the baby while he still goes out with his friends and lives as if nothings changed for him?



what about your parents? do they have to support you both and the baby now?



i had a baby after i was 23. i had dated the father for 2yrs and we got married when we discovered i was preggers (we had already discussed marrage)



we both had jobs and already lived together so we already knew we could support ourselves. it costed 2-3000 dollars to have izzy in the hospital even with my insurance.



it takes a good strain on your body as well. if your not done growing the baby can actually take nutrients from your own bones and muscles. your skin may not be as stretchable and yes you could end up with terrible stretch marks on your boobs and stomach. if you have a normal birth you could get torn down there and if you have a csection you'll have a scar under your belly.



my csection scar is almost gone now it's been 4 yrs since izzy was born.

fathima

fathima says:

Posted on 21 Oct 2010

i agree with everybody.

baby_b_2013

baby_b_2013 says:

Posted on 22 Nov 2010

i agree with everyone. DON'T YOU'LL REGRET IT

kendyspendy

kendyspendy says:

Posted on 28 Nov 2010

Okay, that must be some hard stuff. if you dont know if its the right time than u really should not do it right now because u must b positive about this. And, u say that u do not want your bf to leave u, but trust me, if he really does love u, he will understand and wait till u r ready and if he doesnt think so if u say no then he doesnt love u. Also, i am around ur age too, and trust me these thoughts went around my head 2 when i was in a very comitted relationship but i said i need to wait for awhile 2 think. our age has many questions up 2 us and we really dont kno about the future so we dont kno or care right then if we make the wrong choise even tho we should. all i got to say is that is u really have to think and talk to ur bf about it.
PS. me and my bf r no longer together after a fight only about mayb a month after and we thought we found eachother 4ever.. but u never kno what the future might have in store 4 u and i.

cedesbernadette

cedesbernadette says:

Posted on 05 Jan 2011

15 is way too young. You both aren't even legal adults yet and havent a baby would only complicate things. A baby doesn't make security in a relationship. The baby can't leave but even though you both would be bound to the baby as the legal gardians, he could simply leave under the pressure and complications of a teen pregnancy. Just wait.. You have plenty of time. I love babies and i want nothing more then to have my own SOME DAY but today isnt that day.

jessah0licx3

jessah0licx3 says:

Posted on 23 Feb 2011

babies are always fun and cool to have around, but when your up in the middle of the night taking care of it, the situation can be stressful. and though your boyfriend says he loves you, which don't get me wrong, im sure he honestly does, but sometimes the stress of a baby can take a toll on your relationship, and though he loves you, he may end up not knowing what to do and he may walk out anyways. /: so try finishing school and waiting until you guys are more serious. (:

-jess.

chanyxoxo

chanyxoxo says:

Posted on 31 Jan 2011

I dont think you want to end up on mtv's sixteen and pregnant, nobody does and its embarrising including the disapointment that your parents will have towards you. If you want a baby so bad, atleast wait until your 18. I'm going to do an article about this on my webite youareamazing.webs.com for girls 13-18. reasons why its not good to have sex at a young age:
-You can develop HIV/AIDS
-he wont be the one carrying a baby for 9 months vomiting and feeling pain, you will
-its a big responsibility and it takes money, your not even old enough to get a job yet
There are many more reasons, but those are some. think about this the next time your boyfriend suggests you to have a baby with him. He shouldn't be urging you to do something you dont want to do, and if you want to then I dont think it's suitible for you to have a baby at this young age. Reflect and think about this!

lpurplefashion

lpurplefashion says:

Posted on 20 May 2011

i think boyfriend want to have sex with you so he is saying so

xbreakingxsavannax

xbreakingxsavannax says:

Posted on 22 Jul 2011

dont do it. my cousin had this happen to her about a year ago. he left her right after she told him she was pregnant.

_yo0t_

_yo0t_ says:

Posted on 29 Jul 2011

its not the right time. your a kid. seriously. watch 16 and pregnant. thats my birthcontrol right there. if your scared he's going to leave you then don't do it. why would you want to ruin you, your boyfriends and your childs life by having a kid at that age? do you know how hard it would be to support yourselves and your kid? and what if your parents kick you out? then your on your own. if he's pressuring you to have a child with him then i'd dump him. thats not cool to do. wait till your older and grow up and are financially ready and emotionally ready to have children!
i had to take a robotic baby home from child psych. totally ruined having kids for me. so try juggling school, a job and taking care of your kid? just a horrbile idea. i'm 17 and i would never concider this!
so i hope this helped make your decision. lol

_yo0t_

_yo0t_ says:

Posted on 29 Jul 2011

don't have a baby just to keep him for forever. there is no forever. he could leave whenever he wanted to with or without you having a baby. so don't be stupid please!

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