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Published on: 22 Sep 2018 by sarajane

Learn To Believe In Yourself With A Life Coach

One of the things I love about being an online life coach is that I get to help people learn how to build more confidence and believe in themselves. As a former therapist, I can tell you first hand how so many people never learned at a young age how to develop their self-esteem and feel good about themselves. Unfortunately, they then go out into the world unable to truly produce the results they are seeking. This is why I left my therapy practice for a coaching practice.

In a recent group session, I asked some of my coaching clients to talk about their thoughts on confidence and believing in themselves and here are some of their responses:

I've recently found the punch line "How would the person I'd like to be, do the things I'm about to do?" to be changing my life in many ways. Every time I seek distraction in video games or women, or even smoking weed sometimes, I find my mind creeping into my thoughts and asking me that very question. I've overcome my self defeat by changing the value of my goals to be greater than that of my pleasures by realizing that pleasures are distracting and even addicting in a harmful manner if left disregarded.

The life of mine and many others is one of many pleasures and distractions that tend to lead one down a path of sadness and bitterness over ones failed accomplishments and dreams. This is my place. I have been depressed by philosophy and sequestered by hopelessness; ultimately left with the numbness of self abandon and the inner angst of uncertainty, all the while keeping my goals firmly in mind and searching for a way to crawl out of this terrible state of mind I've been entranced with and into the lofty haven of my realized ambitions. I can't do anything. My life has been taken.  I'm 52.  Can't even master quit smoking.   No education n live alone.  So how would I ever get unstuck and conquer a good when disabled?  I can encourage people and do good though. but so down ever since I lost parents n last my husband.  And people just keep taking advantage of me even when I say no.  and its caused me to get things stolen.  I'm a goof up somehow?

I read "believe in yourself" and hear about becoming who I may be designed for or about becoming an expert in a chosen field. For me (my german understanding) believing in myself is about self-confidence. Its about binding myself to that seed I may clearly recognize in me. So, that's my experience: It does not help to know about your inner seed, even not to be an expert, if one doesn't have enough self-confidence to show up with his skills. Parents and environment may have sent an overwhelming generalizing message: You are not good enough."Nurture your nature".

IMHO the comparably low turnout of this and similar headlined can be explained by the fear it might be triggering. You are showing a doable strategy to move forward, but still the coping that makes a way of living acceptable which does not fully nurture your nature might just be in the way. I see that in most life coaches that they need to get out of their "coping with the boredom of normalcy" patterns.Everyday i try and find my true nature. I have a really strong gut feeling that i have so much to give almost like a champagne bottle before its lid pops off! I just cant seem to get the lid off. Im smart creative and generally good at most things without excelling. The conundrum is I just cant figure out what i should do with my life.

"What would Jesus do" is still is a useful tool for reflection even for those of us who are post-Christian New atheists. Once one recognizes that the Jesus meme is only that one may continue to use it as a type of shorthand for "what is my subconscious sense of morality telling me?"But I am all too aware of the negatives I have had to deal with from my religious days, one such being the meme "he who finds his life shall lose it". This sprang to mind when you cited the Delphi slogan "know thy self" - the two have become a dipole in my mind and I have had to learn to choose my self.One time I was playing video games and I said to my self I believe in my self. Over and over again loudly inside my head and I said I believe in my self that I can beat everyone, in my video game, and so know in RL I started repeating it, loudly inside my head and my heart felt like yelling it out of my lungs but no I didn't do that but I did say it out Loud and know I'm from the wrestling team, and I been wining and achieving one of my goals, so yeah thanks for reading this, cool story!I am an attorney and someone told me if I wanted to be an exceptional attorney, all I had to do was read one case in the area in which I practice every day. Honestly, I never did it but it makes sense to do and I'm sure it would work. This is a great message. Even if you don't become an "expert," you would find your work more fulfilling because you would be better at your job or pursuing your mission.Admittedly I've sometimes harped on attributes that are lower compared with others, but if you reflect on your particular purpose and value you can start to understand your strengths as well as your path.Oh, we must try to "figure out who we are" "respect our nature" "know our nature” Then he goes on to tell his personal story of woe. It's one of the main tricks motivational speakers do and they do it all the time because it works.Talking ABOUT transformation is one thing. BEING transformed is quite another and it's all too easy to be enamored by the IDEA of transformation without being transformed. And, as always, motivational speakers say nothing about the social economic, and political forces that affects us far more than they realize.

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