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Published on: 20 Apr 2012 by isy
My first kiss taught me the greatest lesson thus far. I am just letting you all know I was still young, naive and I knew little or nothing about dating. I made a mistake and looking back I am glad that I did because had I not I would not have learnt this very important lesson.
I was in Grade 10 (I was 16, quite old for a first kiss but oh well) and I was head over heels in love (or so I thought at the time) with this guy (Guy 1 for the purpose of this post). He was a year older than me and went to another school. We used to talk to each other all the time non -stop and I genuinely thought that we would be together forever (ahh young love).
The problem with our arrangement was that even though he told me that he liked or even loved me, he never mentioned anything about a commitment or a relationship. So being the naive impatient girl that I was, I devised a plan to ensure he commits to me (so dumb)
This was the plan : A guy in his class (guy2 for the purpose of this post) asked me out a few times and I kept saying no because I really liked Guy1 but in my crazy head at the time I thought that if I went out with Guy 2, Guy 1 would go crazy with jealousy and finally commit.
So we went out thrice before he kissed me. If you were to ask me to tell you about it I could tell you where and when it happened but I honestly cannot remember how it felt, it is was good or not. Thinking back to that day I do not remember much of it at all.
Needless to say that that was our last date (Guy2 does pop up in my life later but that’s for another post.) and the plan did not work. Guy 1 did not commit (I will tell you the full story in my next post; my first heartbreak)
Lesson Learnt: My mother helped me with this lesson a lot. As women we lose our appeal and our control when we chase after a guy. Guys should be the ones chasing us and committing to us, if you have to trick him into a commitment, he isn’t worth your time and love.
I hope you all enjoyed reading this. Comment below if you have any questions or requests. You can also comment or send requests to me via twitter https://twitter.com/#!/raeesa_isy