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Published on: 26 Jul 2016 by hollowaylinda
Shyness (or social anxiety) is a lack of comfort in social settings that prevents a person from attaining personal or social goals. There are different types of shyness. One can experience bashfulness and nervousness around certain people and certain kinds of situations while another one can behave timidly and awkwardly around most people and in most situations. If you are familiar with the problem, you need to learn to relax socially. Thus, you will draw the attention away from yourself and use the opportunities to practice your social communication. Relaxed socializing is pleasurable and productive. To get over your shyness, read the following article and put the advice into practice.
Social anxiety is usually caused by an exaggerated self-awareness, in which it may seem that other people are paying you a more heightened attention than they actually are. It's your imagination! The truth is that the most people are focused on themselves rather than on the others. Besides, they may be as anxious as you, or even more so. And what is more, you should understand that what people think of you has a lot more to do with who they are than who you are.
Avoid inward thinking and focusing on the negative and learn to think outward and focus on the people and situations around you. Of course, you can consider a little the way you are acting, but if it takes up all your attention, your imagination will suggest you a wrong idea that all eyes on you. Stop concentrating on your shyness in social situations and direct your attention to other people, notice what they are wearing, listen to their sayings, try to remember names. Your interest centered on these details will push your negative thoughts and social anxiety away.
How does it feel to be a socially confident person? Remember the way you behave and feel around close people. Most likely, you are completely comfortable and at ease with family and friends. Transfer this feeling to the people and situations that cause social anxiety. One more helpful way is having a role model. Think of someone (whether your friend or a celebrity) who is very confident and sociable and can act as a positive role model. Now that you have a real life person chosen as a reference point, it is much easier for you to become free of shyness. Every time you find yourself in some unknown or nervous situation think about how that person would act in it and do the same. Soon, this behavioral manner will become your second nature.
Those who suffer from shyness follow the habitual patterns of behaviors. Overcoming shyness by pretending that you’ve already done is a very effective approach called “fake it till you make it”. Start acting as if you are truly confident. By handling social situations more comfortably you will quickly learn the right behaviors and stick to them.
Take your time to change you focus and model your behavior through practicing social act to overcome shyness.About the author: Linda Holloway is a writer, who easily creates very useful and full of interesting facts articles.Linda writes articles for http://24writer.com/.She has a blog about psychology, which helps many young women. As a hobby Linda organizes events for young mother and children.